Antes de que el agua genere vapor, debe alcanzar los cien grados centígrados de temperatura… no lo logrará con 90 ni 98 grados. El agua debe hervir antes de que genere suficiente vapor como para echar andar una turbina o para que funcione el motor de un generador o un tren. El agua tibia no logra movimientos.
Con esto trato de decir que son muchas las personas que están tratando de mover el tren de su vida con agua tibia “o agua que está a punto de hervir” y se preguntan por qué no son exitosos o por qué no logran salir adelante.
La tibieza en el trabajo de una persona funciona igual que la tibieza en la caldera de un tren. Nadie debe esperar logros importantes hasta que entregue toda su alma y libere toda la vida que existe dentro de ella. No es suficiente tener deseos de hacer algo. Sólo hay una forma de lograrlo y es luchando por ser algo, con toda la energía que albergamos.
No hay mayor auto-engaño que creer que sólo porque tenemos grandes deseos estamos haciendo algo significativo, o que el hecho de ser consciente de estos deseos quiere decir que los estamos ejecutando. sólo las mentes fuertes, decididas y dueñas de un gran propósito, lo suelen lograr.
Hay una enorme distancia entre los que desean y los que hacen. Un deseo es tan sólo agua tibia que nunca llevará el tren a su destino; el propósito es lograr que hierva, debe convertirse en vapor para lograr lo que se quiere.
Cada vida debe tener una gran razón de ser, con una prioridad ante todas las demás razones, un principio supremo que es tan fuerte, tan imperativo en sus exigencias que no se puede confundir o ignorar su llamado.
Sin esto la energía del agua nunca alcanzará su ebullición, y el tren de la vida no logrará ni siquiera salir de la estación, menos aún llegar a algún lugar.
Todo ser humano con un gran propósito de vida es una fuerza positiva, constructiva y creativa. Nadie puede ser recursivo, inventivo, original o creativo sin la dirección indivisible de la mente enfocada en un gran sueño por realizar, en un gran propósito en la vida. No es posible enfocar la mente en algo que no nos interesa ni nos entusiasma.
Cuando nace el poder de un nuevo propósito, un objetivo definitivo dentro de ti, te conviertes repentinamente en una criatura nueva. Ves todo bajo una nueva luz. Recuerda que el hábito de postergar mata la iniciativa más fuerte. La excesiva cautela y la falta de confianza son enemigos fatales de la iniciativa.
Reflexión, es mucho más fácil hacer algo cuando el propósito nos da la fuerza, cuando el entusiasmo nos facilita el camino, que cuando todo depende del mañana. Desear algo y buscar el conocimiento para lograrlo lo convierte en un académico; Desear y buscar la virtud es lo que hace a una persona un santo; Desear y buscar una acción noble es lo que convierte a un individuo en un héroe y en un gran ser humano.
La acción es la que hace la gran diferencia. Todo debe ir impulsado hacía una meta, armados con el poder y la intensidad del deseo, y la lucha por llevarlo a cabo. Toma la decisión de que pase lo que pase, vas hacer lo que deseas y que NO exista “un día de estos”, o el “pero” ni el “tal vez” en tu vocabulario, puedes estar seguro que tendrás el material para ser un triunfador y llegar al éxito.
One of the most famous speeches by Steve Jobs is the commencement address he gave at Stanford University in 2005. The 22-minute speech is definitely worth watching if you’re an Apple fan.
Apple has made small and subtle references to Jobs in its software before, and now another easter egg has been discovered in Pages for Mac. Jobs’ entire commencement speech is hidden within a text file in Pages, and it’s easy to pull up.
OS X Daily found the easter egg, which also contains the script from Apple’s “Think Different” campaign, in a file called “Apple.txt.” in the Contents of the Pages app. Pressing Shift + Command + G in Finder and pasting in /Applications/Pages.app/Contents/Resources/ will take you to the right folder. From there, open the Apple.txt file.
To get to the speech directly, you can paste the following into Terminal:
I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I’ve ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That’s it. No big deal. Just three stories.
The first story is about connecting the dots.
I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?
It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: “We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?” They said: “Of course.” My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.
And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents’ savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn’t see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn’t interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.
It wasn’t all romantic. I didn’t have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends’ rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:
Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can’t capture, and I found it fascinating.
None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, it’s likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.
Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
My second story is about love and loss.
I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.
I really didn’t know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down – that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.
I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.
During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple’s current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.
I’m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.
My third story is about death.
When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn’t even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor’s code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you’d have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.
I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I’m fine now.
This was the closest I’ve been to facing death, and I hope it’s the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:
No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960’s, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.
Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: “Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.” It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.
Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.
Thank you all very much.
So you want to know how to win every argument?
Not that passivity is the most effective strategy but if you’re thinking about “winning” you’re already headed down the wrong path.
From a neuroscience perspective, “When an argument starts, persuasion stops.”
Via Compelling People: The Hidden Qualities That Make Us Influential:
When an argument starts, persuasion stops. A group of researchers including psychologist Drew Westen conducted a revealing experiment, which Westen wrote about in his book The Political Brain. In the heated election campaign of 2004, the researchers found supporters of presidential candidates George Bush and John Kerry and took MRI pictures of their brains as they watched video footage of their favorite candidate completely contradicting himself. So what happened in people’s brains when they saw information that contradicted their worldview in a charged political environment? As soon as they recognized the video clips as being in conflict with their worldview, the parts of the brain that handle reason and logic went dormant. And the parts of the brain that handle hostile attacks — the fight-or-flight response — lit up.
This is what happens when a discussion becomes an argument. It’s no longer an exercise in logic and reasoning. It’s just a fight.
And being in a fight brings its own frame of mind, a whole set of attitudes, expectations, and conditioned reactions that go along with arguing. As soon as that happens, no one cares who is right and who is wrong. All that matters is who is friend and who is foe. So if you’re trying to win over someone whose natural allegiances are not with you, getting into an argument is a sure way to fail.
We’ve all been there: doing anything to win, it’s messy, no progress is made or (god forbid) acknowledged. The only thing guaranteed is hurt feelings.
What’s the real problem? Winning means seeing the discussion through a war metaphor.
Daniel Cohen explains how the whole war metaphor is inherently problematic in his TED talk:
Once it’s war, we’re no longer focused on what’s right, we just want to win by any means necessary. No, not just the other guy — you’re doing it too.
Nobody wants to admit they’re wrong because it’s now a status game – and that’s where “winning” comes from, it’s a metaphoric struggle for life and death now and nobody wants to die.
Most people can’t even take feedback well. Why? Same reason.
Taking feedback becomes a status game. If they take your advice, you’re telling them what to do.
Via Your Brain at Work: Strategies for Overcoming Distraction, Regaining Focus, and Working Smarter All Day Long:
The source of the difficulty here lies in who comes up with the solution. Paul’s suggestion makes him look smarter, and Eric less smart. This impacts their relative status, which Eric is likely to fight against. The better Paul’s answer is, the more likely Eric might resist it. It’s bizarre… Paul’s giving out suggestions also threatens Eric’s autonomy: it’s no longer Eric’s choice to follow a specific path.
But you still want to know how to win every argument?
Okay, so what happens if you bring video evidence, expert witnesses and logically back them into a corner from which the greatest trial lawyer could not escape?
They hate you. That’s what happens.
Congrats, you’re the lucky winner of a new enemy.
There’s a better way.
Ask yourself “What’s my real goal?”
It usually breaks down into one of three categories:
1) “I want to influence them to do things my way.”
Well, then having them hate you doesn’t help.
You can get people to do things your way or accept new ideas. There’s not necessarily a status game/ego threat there — unless you demand credit for the idea.
So the first step is stop arguing and stop trying to “win.” Most business arguments fall into this category.
2) “I don’t know why I’m arguing but somehow I ended up here.”
We’ve all been there. But trying to “win” is not the solution here either. You don’t even really want to be fighting. Most relationship arguments fall into this category.
Married couples never resolve most of the things they fight about. John Gottman’s research shows 69% of couple’s problems are perpetual.
Leaving those arguments unfought does not end the relationship. Vicious must-win tactics do. So stop arguing.
3) “I want to prove them wrong.”
And here’s where you really get into trouble.
You’re saying you’ll only be satisfied by an admission of error and that runs headlong into the brain shutdown and status game issues. Good luck in your personal war against biology and human nature.
You can’t make someone admit defeat, but you can make them hate you. And is that your goal? With a clear head, re-evaluate what you really want here.
The only category that makes any sense is #1. But arguing isn’t the way. Persuasion is. How do you do that? I’ve described a number of methods:
Here’s how FBI hostage negotiators do it.
Here’s how persuasion guru Robert Cialdini does it.
Here’s what “How to Win Friends and Influence People” author Dale Carnegie says.
Here’s how to give feedback or give a friend advice while dodging the status game issue.
One Final Note
In that TED talk above, Daniel Cohen makes another excellent point that often gets overlooked:
Losing an argument means you learn something.
Knowing how to win every argument would be a terrible personal loss.
You don’t get any wiser by verbally bludgeoning people. You get wiser by learning.
Winning an argument is a short term ego victory. Losing an argument can be a learning experience that benefits you the rest of your life.
Or maybe I’m wrong. Please prove me wrong.
I’d rather learn something.
Relient K – Royale Boston, Boston, MA 05/07/2013
The Killers at Barclays Center, Brooklyn, NY
… y así después de esperar tanto, un día como cualquier otro decidí triunfar… decidí no esperar las oportunidades sino yo mismo buscarlas, decidí ver cada problema como la oportunidad de encontrar una solución, decidí ver cada desierto como la oportunidad de encontrar un oasis, decidí ver cada noche como un misterio a resolver, decidí ver cada día como una nueva oportunidad para ser feliz.
Aquel día descubrí que mi único rival no eran más que mis propias debilidades, y que en éstas, está la única y mejor forma de superarnos.
Aquel día dejé de temer a perder y empecé a temer a no ganar, descubrí que no era yo el mejor y que quizás nunca lo fui.
Me dejó de importar quién ganara o perdiera; ahora me importa simplemente saberme mejor que ayer.
Aprendí que lo difícil no es no llegar a la cima, sino jamás dejar de subir.
Aprendí que el mejor triunfo que puedo tener, es tener el derecho a llamar a alguien “AMIGO”.
Descubrí que el amo es más que un simple estado de enamoramiento, “el amor es una filosofía de vida”.
Aquel día dejé de ser reflejo de mis escasos triunfos pasados, y empecé a ser mi propia tenue luz de este presente; aprendí que de nada sirve ser luz si no vas a iluminar el camino de los demás.
Aquel día aprendí que los sueños son solamente para hacerse realidad.
Desde aquel día ya no duermo para descansar, duermo para soñar.
– Walt Disney